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Magic Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?

You all are familiar with the famous Disney movie Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. Snow White’s stepmother had this magical mirror that always answers her truthfully. The answer of her question, “Magic mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?” was always YOU… until Snow White grew older. The Stepmother was furious and blinded with jealousy. I loved watching this movie and a lot of other similar Disney movies.

When I was young we did not have all this technology around us. I did not have a phone. We did not have a computer until my teenage years; that big computer with the huge screen and the large rectangular CPU. I played pretend after school. I watched Disney movies on TV. I also played with Barbies.

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I have kept a special Barbie at my house that I got years ago as a gift. For those who don’t know what a Barbie is, it is a plastic doll that is skinny and tall with lean legs, long hair, big beautiful eyes, and a full mouth. It was the standard of beauty. The way I played with it was dressing it with a myriad of outfits, and I was amazed at how everything looked great on it. I do not play with it now, but I have it in my closet. I hid it years ago, when I stopped playing with it, and never allowed anyone to touch it because I wanted to give it to my daughter. I totally forgot about it until a couple of days ago, when I found it as I was cleaning my closet. Looking at it, I was once again amazed at how perfect its body is, how beautiful it is. Then, I did what I never thought I would do. I threw it in the trash. I will not leave such a legacy for my daughter.

 For those who do not know me, I am nowhere near skinny and I love food. For years I have struggled with my self-image. I have looked at the mirror countless times, and wished I would be just like that Barbie! I went into some extremes of surviving only on lunch for months to look like that Barbie. I avoided the mirror, because its answer for me was, “Nah, you are not even close to average beauty.” That mirror lied to me constantly. That mirror projected the lies my family, friends and society made me believe. There was always someone more beautiful than me, there was always a Barbie, sitting in the closet and grinning, that I compared myself to. LIES, LIES, LIES!!!

Everything around me conveyed one message: “Do not like yourself!”

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Why? Because the only way for you to like yourself is to look like Barbie. Which is impossible for me… oh how much I love my ice cream with chocolate syrup topping, and that royal roasted chicken my mom cooks.

It doesn’t stop there. The sad story I realized is that I will never be able to satisfy this hungry urge for beauty, because I have learned to compare myself to others. That simply means that I not just want to be beautiful as a Barbie, but the ONLY beautiful one. I will always find someone more beautiful than me and I will always want to be more beautiful. Here I am stuck in that loop; I will never be able to like myself.

It took me some time to recreate my own mirror…. One that says: you are beautiful and your friend is beautiful, the beggar on the street and the celebrity on the TV are beautiful. Everyone is beautiful. God created us in His image.

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well.”     – Psalm 139:14

I base my mirror on the truth I read in the bible and was shown by Godly people who love me just the way I am. 

I am sorry Snow White had to suffer the consequence of a Lie. Had her Step mother understood that everyone is beautiful, she wouldn’t have to suffer through what she suffered from. Had I understood that Barbie is not the standard of beauty, I wouldn’t have suffered a wrecked self image for many years.

I am not going to pass on these lies to my daughter. And I am writing this to tell you:

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

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